Monday, January 19, 2009
slacked away today! that's a really great feeling. haha
watched one of my new purchases - "
Threshold" .. An Alien kinda movie.. Not too bad but
not really very scary.. Then I watched
Final Destination 2 and 3 for the millionth time.. I also tried to watch a little bit of
The Devil Wears Prada.. In fact I might go watch it in a bit heh. That would make it my 943456789024th time watching it lol.
Got up real early today..
Couldn't sleep last night for some reason. I was thinking too much and too hard. Haha. Drifted off into a
fitful sleep.. Woke up feeling unrested. Oh wells. Wanted to go gym. Haha but then started listening to my show recordings to see which is the best to use as a demo for portfolio and
got too caught up. Ended up not going to gym. BAH! Just as well.
Had a kinda
epiphany yesterday on the way to the family gathering (
yang's birthday! Lol) It was actually kind of a branch off of something i learnt from
xyz. Her msn nick was something about her being
only 50% and so I asked what it was about. Apparently her friend told her that
in a relationship, each party can only do his/her 100%, which contributes to 50% of the relationship.
At that point all I thought was "true, true.." and i didn't think more of it. Later, however, some time after church and before arriving at
yang's place, I was thinking about how if I put my mind to something, and am determined to see it through, things almost always work out. Like getting Lasik, going to UB, getting my dental surgery... Things that I wasn't too sure would happen but was determined enough to see through.. Granted, the last one isn't done yet but well.. It's well on its way. So I was thinking.
If I were to be determined enough to make my relationship (hypothetical) work, i'm sure I would fulfill my 50%. All the relationship would need is
the other party's 50% for it to be a guaranteed success. It doesn't even need to be 50%. It could be just 30% and the relationship would have an 80% chance of working out and those are pretty good odds already.
The only problem now is
finding out whether or not the other party is willing to give his/her 100% (which = 50% of the relationship).. And I think this is often the
most problematic part of every relationship. Sometimes, people are just too selfish to give of themselves entirely, so you end up with maybe a half-hearted effort, leading to just 25% of the relationship. However, I feel that most times, problems in relationships occur when/because neither party is aware of how much the other party is giving, or when/because one party starts to doubt the amount of effort the other party is putting in.
I'm sure I speak for a lot of people when I say this.
Insecurity is often the mother of all breakups. When you can't be sure of what the other person is thinking, you start to withdraw and start giving less. Maybe you want to protect yourself, or maybe you think it isn't worth it if the other party isn't even trying. Slowly, both parties start to withdraw, start to quarrel, and that's when the relationship goes down the path of no return.
I think this theory applies not only to steady relationships. It also applies to crushes, burgeoning relationships, relationships between friends, family, colleagues, between a company and its employee, a nation and her citizens.. Though when we include institutions then it becomes very weird to personify them and say how much they are 'giving' because technically a nation has already given you its all and can't really withdraw.. It also applies to bloggers and their readers (hehehe. i'm blogging my ass off and no one is reading/commenting!!! *angry*), teachers and students, doctors and patients, so on and so forth!
Of course in each context there's always a different story but yea. If we could all give our 100%, or even just 80%, so many things would have such higher odds of getting done.
For me, of course, I just wish.. well. hmm. haha i'll say this somewhere else, some other time.
Anyways yesterday was yang's birthday party. it was fun! he had 2 little friends come over and we played with them a bit. Hung out with the cousins and had quite a lot of fun heh. Ding lost his peter petrelli hair and has good looking hair now! Oh and got a work-blazer thing from Godma.. Us ladies should run some kind of co-op. haha. Yea.
Ok i'm going to watch shanghai knights now hahahaha. See y'all soon.
like i said, I just wish I could know for sure if you were giving your 100%. I know I'll give mine. I'll try!
so said cher @ 4:14 AM
